In the queer group I’m involved with we recently revised our safer space guidelines and community agreements.
One of the guidelines originally was provide a name/pseudonym and preferred pronouns, and the new guideline is a name and preferred pronoun set.
We wanted to encourage naming of the actual pronoun(s) instead of masculine/feminine/gender-neutral as adjectives ascribed to specific sets (i.e. feminine is she, masculine is he etc). This was not without some conflict and confusion.
For some folks, their him is very firmly masculine to the point of being unable to deccouple the pronoun from the gender expression. Continue reading